Saturday, February 09, 2019

speak his love language ❤️📱



my Love Language is words of affirmation. a kind word from my husband goes a long way in my heart! his thoughtful and affirming words mean so much to me.

my husband's Love Language, on the other hand, is physical touch. giving him a compliment or a gift doesn't fill his LOVE TANK the way giving him a hug or a massage does! even though physical touch isn't my Love Language, it's important that i "speak" his Love Language on a regular basis - when i do, he feels loved the most. 

do you know your Love Language? do you know your spouse's Love Language? understanding the 5 Love Languages (by Dr. Gary Chapman), and figuring out how to "speak" my husband's Love Language, has been a GAME CHANGER for me and our marriage! i highly recommend learning the Love Languages of your loved ones!

the 5 Love Languages are: 
1 // WORDS OF AFFIRMATION
2 // RECEIVING GIFTS
3 // QUALITY TIME
4 // ACTS OF SERVICE
5 // PHYSICAL TOUCH

with each Love Language, there are unique ways to "speak" it to express your love in a way that your spouse best receives it. this awareness in our marriage has been helpful for us to communicate to each other in a way that is loving AND makes us feel loved. when we speak each other's love language, our LOVE TANKS fill up to the brim. 

it really is like learning a new language. if two people are trying to have a conversation but speak two different languages, how will they ever fully understand each other? they need to learn to speak the OTHER person's language. only then can they understand and be understood. 



the new LOVENUDGE APP is like a Love Language translator at your fingertips! the app makes it super simple to discover your Love Language and your spouse's Love Language, and begin speaking each other's Love Language. the goal is to keep his LOVE TANK full! and to help him know how to keep your LOVE TANK full, too!

(sweet Valentine's Day gift idea: the LoveNudge app and the 5 Love Languages book!)

what do you think your Love Language is? download the new LOVENUDGE APP and find out! it's free! 



on the LOVENUDGE app you can:
// take the official 5 Love Languages® quiz to discover your Love Language and your spouse's
// "translate" the Love Languages and discover ways to "speak" your spouse's Love Language
// set goals to regularly take on activities that align with your spouse's Love Language, with the option to turn on reminders
// send your partner a playful "nudge" to suggest activities or to find out if their Love Tank is on E
// adjust your Love Tank levels so your partner knows how you're feeling


download here: LoveNudge.app

once you have downloaded the LoveNudge App, you can go HERE and be entered to win Dr. Gary Chapman’s #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, The 5 Love Languages® for Men, AND The Love Languages Devotional Bible (hardback)! ENTER TO WIN HERE: https://www.blessedfreebies.com/lovenudge.html




// children have LOVE TANKS and Love Languages, too! discover your child's Love Language and get some ideas for filling your child's LOVE TANK here!

// this is also a helpful guide to fun and practical ways to speak each of the 5 Love Languages: https://asymphonyofpraise.com/blog/fun-and-practical-ways-to-speak-the-five-love-languages


"beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, 
and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 
anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love." 
1 John 4:7-8


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Thursday, January 31, 2019

social media contract for our teenager (with scripture) 📱




we gave our daughter her own instagram account for her 14th birthday. but first, we made her agree to a few things. we made her sign a contract. and yeah, we used scripture to back up our expectations.

according to instagram's terms of use, you must be 13 years old to have an account. some of my daughter's friends were on instagram long before they were 13, but we stood our ground to follow the official terms of use. but when she was 13, i still didn't quite have peace about her being on social media. there were more conversations we needed to have and more heart-work to do. so i waited, prayed about it, tried to model healthy social media presence, and then i kind of forgot about it. and so did my daughter. having her own instagram account wasn't something she asked for, or bugged us about, but i know she would have fun connecting with her friends on that platform. and at age 14, i saw a new level of maturity in her that indicated she was ready. i had peace about releasing her into the wild world of social media...with heavy monitoring and some serious guidelines in place.   

my husband and i drew up a social media contract for her, specific to instagram since that is the only platform she is using. and because the Bible is the foundation of our family's moral compass, we added scripture into the contract as a reminder of who she is and Whose she is. in a world full of puppy ears and sparkle eyes filters, we want her to know that the best filter she'll ever use is the Word of God. this contract was written with our teenage daughter in mind, but honestly i wish everyone had to agree to these things before they got online. social media would be a much nicer place! 

as a social media marketer/online influencer manager, i understand what she's getting into. being on social media is a bigger deal than it might seem. it's a big responsibility and privilege that we don't take lightly. this isn't just about posting selfies and seeing silly memes. she will be exposed to a lot. there will be temptations and influences. she'll have new opportunities to walk the walk we've taught her to walk. when my daughter is online, i want her to represent our family well and i want her to represent Jesus well. we've raised her to know that her identity is found in Christ alone, not in likes and comments. we've taught her that words are powerful and to use them wisely. she knows how to trust the Holy Spirit for discernment. she knows to prepare her heart before she posts. it's less about what to post and more about why she's posting. we have taught her, and will continue to instill, that what really matters in life is Who she follows (Jesus), not who follows her on instagram. 


"train up a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not depart from it."
-proverbs 22:6

something i'm learning as i go is that the best way i can protect my kids is to prepare my kids. the natural instinct is to protect them by preventing them from doing anything - the put them in a bubble perspective. but that isn't really living at all. a safe life isn't an abundant life, because a safe life never learns to dream big, take risks, try new things, or trust God fully. we're called to train our children in the way they should go, which means we need to prepare them and equip them for an abundant life, fully trusting God and leaning on Him. 

so, instead of keeping my kids off of social media and strictly prohibiting it for their entire lives, we are choosing to equip them with biblical boundaries and guidelines that line up with our family's beliefs. a line of communication has been established now, and how we navigate being on the internet will be an ongoing conversation with lots of grace and love, remaining firm in our foundation. this social media contract is where we're starting.

social media is supposed to be a fun place to connect with friends. that's it! these boundaries are in place not to be a helicopter parent or to take social media too seriously, but to keep it fun and safe.



you can view, download, and edit our instagram contract here: 

❤️
"let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. and whatever you do,whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." -colossians 3:17


ARE YOUR KIDS ON SOCIAL MEDIA? 
share your thoughts with me on instagram (of course)!


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